Collective Recollections
What do I do?
His sister told me some mess, and his mother told me some mess, and he's acting ways...
What do I do?
I'm calling my sponsor when I leave work...but I'd love to know what you guys think.
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11 comments:
O.K. I am trying to get my new name to look right.
I know you already saw the other comments that I deleted cause you are a blog addict.
My serious comments to you are in my email.
Be safe.
Peace,
Scout
Do you like how THIS looks?
You have my support, and my email.
My thoughts are with the both of you.
an al-anon reminder: "I cannot punish anyone without punishing myself. The release of my tensions,even if it seems justified, leaves dregs of bitterness behind. Unless I have deliberately decided that my relationship with my spouse has no further value in my life, I would do well to consider the long-range benefits of quiet acceptance in times of stress."
and then: "How shall you punish those whose remorse is already greater than their misdeeds?"
(Kahlil Gibran: The Prophet)
Maybe a bit antiquated but still of value, I believe.
and yes, be safe.
msb - I am curious about the al-anon reminder. Are you saying that the other half of an addict, should practice acceptance of a relapse, accepts the lies, the manipulation?
I am truly interested in how al-anon teaches you to react to an addict who has been actively using behind your back, lying and manipulating you once again. Do you not confront him/her? Do you step back and watch them self destruct?
I know nothing of al-anon teachings, and I want to understand. I mean I understand being an addict that no one can punish me as much as I punish myself. But what does it mean in light of relapse?
And yes, Madness, Darkness, I do like how it looks.
JW - Thank you for putting that in perspective. I can only see things from my point of view, and that answers very well my question, and I think it is commendable attitude one with strength, courage, and compassion.
I am sorry I didn't see that before.
Dam girl I know this is hard for you but talk to your sponser and talk to G. See what he says. Maybe he is, maybe he isnt. I really hope is isnt.
Maybe he is and doesnt really want to hide it from you, but he thinks that you will leave him and hes ashamed and doesnt know how to tell you the truth.
Either way if you want to talk to me you know my email and my myspace dont be a stranger!
Sorry EJ for not getting back sooner. I got sick this afternoon. Usually when I drop something I try and keep my eye on it. JW nailed it with how I would have interpreted that piece. It was out of the Al-Anon "One Day At A Time In Al-Anon" book for todays reading. Unfortunately for me the communities I have lived in don't have any Na-Anon meetings so when I am faced with a dilemma, such as my partner in relapse mode, I turn to Al-Anon material. It has been my experience that most of my best thinking was inadequate when in I'm in the thick of a situation. And after enough years of using my best inadequate game to spin my wheels I have learned to pick up the literature.
I thought about just sending this as an e-mail but decided it was maybe something that might be useful in a more public venue. And it appears to have been a good choice for me because really got alot out of your comments. I question everything and never want to become to complacent with any process. Not even 12 step literature. Although, for me, it has been the bottom line of my recovery and quite a number off others I'm certain.
It looks as if you know what you need to do for yourself. (And what greater authority?) If there is a specific way that I can support you, I trust that you will let me know. I will support you in any way I can and in any way you feel you need.
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