Sponsor
I'm going to be a sponsor. Someone asked me after our meeting where we talked about working the 12th step. My first reaction was fear. This is someone with years in the program. She has had multiple sponsors and is a sponsor herself. They say that what you should look for in a sponsor is someone who has what you want. My worry was that she has way more that I want than I could ever have what she wants. Whenever she shares in meetings, it helps me. I don't know if I've got what she needs. But then, I decided that it's not up to me to decide what she wants. It's up to me to decide about my own willingness. I'm willing, and she says she wants this. So, after the holidays, we're getting started. Anyone with ESH to share on being a sponsor, I'd love to hear it.
7 comments:
You must have something that she wants and lacks in her own program...and as a sponsor, you are always learning, as well. Your sponsees teach you about who you are, as well.
My sponsor says never say know. And I know for sure that I get way more from my sponsees than I could ever give. They say no. I really think its the power on one addict helping another, sharing and caring the NA way. Or what ever A. :+) Happy Holidays.
This is kind of building on what MSB said but even as I read your post I can see the power that sharing and identifying holds.
You'll do great.
Good luck! It's great to give back, right?
This is so off topic to your entry. But I have just discovered your beautiful message left on my blog regarding my son Dallas. I want to thank you for it. I want to thank you for taking the time to read his story. Most people don't. It means everything to me. It is the only way he still lives on, in some ways. I love what you are doing here. And I think... there is a reaosn perhaps, you and she are coming together. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. But if it does?.....wonderful things happening.
Love and Peace from Seattle.
This is so off topic to your entry, but I just saw your comment on my blog regarding my son Dallas.
I want to thank you for it. Thank you for taking the time to read his story. Not many people take the time. It means so much to me.
In a way... it is the only way he can live on. That his life mean something, anything.. after death. That people know what an amazing human being he was. What a beautiful soul.
I think.. there is a reason you and she are coming together. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. But if it does? Wonderful things can happen.
Love and Peace from Seattle....
I have found that the less expectations I have, entering in to the Sponsor/Sponsee relationship,. the better it goes for me. I would also feel like you do, as far as someone with more time than me, but I would grab ahold of MY Sponsor and pick her brain the entire way. Gosh, that's pretty much what I am told to do ANYWAY, huh? (doh!)
I tend to tell my grrls, at one point or another, "I don't expect that you're going to actually DO this, but here's what my experience has been, and this is what worked for me..." I don't know if that's right or wrong, but I have to remember to "hold on loosely".
:o)
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